Yesterday I got the happy results of my third set of scans.
Almost two years post-surgery and closing in on 18 months after chemo and
radiation, the results are negative—meaning no evidence of cancer—so positive
for me.
My entire body heaved a gigantic sigh of relief.
Living beyond cancer requires never-ending attitude adjustments for
me. Days go by now that I feel “normal” and hardly think about cancer. As if, having
had cancer didn’t really happen to
me.
And then there are the days between scheduling a scan and
getting the results, what another cancer thriver aptly labeled Scanxiety. It’s as if having the scan
sets off a little time bomb in my head, tick, tick, ticking with fears of the
worst threatening to go off.
When scanxiety sets in, the first thing I try to do is follow a
social worker’s suggestion to look at FEAR as False Evidence
Appearing
Real.
Because I’m a writer and can’t help myself, I edit the F to Fiction. When morbid thoughts
take over my brain I remind myself it is Fiction, like a chilling novel,
pretending to be real.
On my worst days, I need more. Thankfully, one constant during
this experience is, on any given day, if I stop to pay attention, I get exactly
what I need.
I had my scans last Thursday. By Friday I was in cancer freakin’
meltdown mode when I came upon a feather on the beach. In case you don’t know,
my friend, Sister Nancy taught me that feathers are blessings. The one I found
on Friday was long and silky, the biggest feather I have ever found. That sudden
supersized blessing coaxed me back to solid ground.
Last night, for the first time I saw a six month old message
from a woman who worked where I did almost twenty years ago. She wrote because
last October, she read my article about moving beyond cancer in the Philadelphia
Inquirer. She shared that seven years ago, she had been diagnosed with Stage 4 breast
cancer that had spread to her lymph nodes, lungs, bone, and brain. Seven Years Ago. And she is still
thriving and loving her family and friends—living proof there is life well beyond
stage 4.
If your knowledge of Stage 4 cancer comes mostly from TV dramas and
novels—like mine did before my own Stage 4 diagnosis—you may think of Stage 4
as gaunt and gray and bedridden, hovering at death’s door. That’s the way I thought
of it “before” and some days that old myth is still really hard to shake.
It’s those hard days when I most need to be open to the lessons around
me. If you ask me why I just saw a six month old message,
my only answer is this. Some power out there greater than me rigged it so I saw
it when I most needed the reminder that life goes on after Stage 4 and I am
living large.
